Anonymous asked: I'd like to hear/read your opinion of an issue a friend of mine brought up: how do you feel about members of the queer community using the word Faggot so freely and openly as a means to "de-weaponize" it and turn it into a term of love instead of hate? A friend of mine argues that treating a word with a negative connotation will only give it more power and meaning. I find his argument a little frustrating, especially since he has faced no oppression/bigotry in his life as a gay who can "pass"
Words definitely hold the meaning and power that are given to them, but that does not necessarily remove their history or impact on people who’ve been subjected to oppression. It also doesn’t mean that by reclaiming a term you are saying that it’s no longer appropriate to analyze its use and make a determination on situations where it should not be said.
As a term that some of us use in our in-group friend circles, I feel like the word has some social use, but I don’t believe it’s appropriate to say around people that you are unsure of in terms of their history with that word, especially if that person may have a bad reaction to it. It also gives straight people the idea that being hurt by it is all in our minds and that some of us just need to “lighten up”.
I would hesitate to assume what someone’s experience has been based on their ability to “pass”, but I understand what you’re driving at here. “Straight-acting” gays have, in my experience, aligned themselves with toxic, heterosexist sexual ethics, assimilationist political strategies, narrow gender politics, etc. “Faggot” is often used by them to talk about the rest of us. You know, the ones who “ruin it” for them by being too authentically ourselves outside of the bounds of their comfortable attachment to straight society. They tell us to lighten up on the word, but then perpetuate the usage of it to demean femme men and ridicule queer life.
They, like straight people, often don’t mean “I didn’t mean it that way, stop being sensitive” or “you give that word power over you”, they mean “shut up and stop trying to make me change or analyze my positions, also this is your fault”.
Maybe this person doesn’t do that, but that has largely been my experience with straight-passing gay men.
The problem here is that we can’t detoxify a term simply by us relaxing when it’s used. The uses of “faggot” hold within them some important statements on how we view specifically femme men in society that won’t go away simply by all of us agreeing to just “no longer see any harm” in it.
"Gay", "faggot", and other words are often used to denote weakness, ignorance, femininity, submissiveness, unfavorable circumstances, feminine-coded sexual roles, etc. If we just throw up our hands and say "you gave this word that power, chill out and it will be fine" we’re essentially saying it’s no longer worth pursuing and rooting out these antifeminine and anti-gay sentiments embedded in our culture.
Sure, maybe there’s a great case for 100% full reclamation, but it also tends to come with silencing these questions of cultural impact which is unproductive and largely comes at the expense of femme queers who have had more experience with these terms being used in society to devalue and hurt us.
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Being honest here. *nervously*
I hate how many notes this has…and that I’m reblogging it..
Too many notes…way too many
i can say yes to every one…
I’m kind of scared to reblog but you know
Every single one.
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For reference, here’s Head Is A Stone:
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